How We Don’t See Love
Shadow work is about looking within, facing the parts of ourselves we’d rather ignore. But often we don’t go deep enough. We have a perception of what others did to us instead of understanding what lies beneath those experiences. For example, many young people today criticize their parents — “My parents didn’t do this,” or “They should have done that.” Yet when they become parents themselves, they often realize how hard it really is. We forget that our parents might not have learned how to express their love in the way we expect it, but that doesn’t mean they didn’t love us. Love isn’t always shown in words; sometimes it’s hidden in action, in sacrifice. Imagine your child gives you a little gift — maybe their own toy wrapped in torn paper, half sticking out. You don’t see the imperfect wrapping; you see the love behind it. That’s how we should see our parents — imperfect in their giving, but full of love, nonetheless. And if they hadn’t cared, we wouldn’t have made it to adulthood. They must have gone through struggle and pain to give us a better life, but we forget, because we focus only on our own perception. Sometimes people shout, get angry, or act harshly — not because they don’t care, but because that’s the only way they know how to express their concern. Their nervous system, their upbringing, all shape how they show love.
It’s the same in relationships. We often expect love to look a certain way — the way we show it. But if our partner expresses it differently, we start feeling unloved. And that’s where resentment builds. We forget that people give love in the way they were taught to. So it’s important to be mindful. We all carry conditioning, small resentments, unspoken hurts — and they manifest in how we relate to others.
Be Truly Present
In the Sufi way we talk about our relationship with God — that deep awareness and connection that goes beyond just belief, and what it means to be truly present and in awe of His divine presence. If you look closely, similar teachings appear in other faiths too. For example, in the Bible, Matthew 6:33 says, “Put God first in your life and try to do what is right, and God will take care of everything else you need.” So, the message is universal: put God at the centre of your life. But the problem is, for most of us, God becomes secondary. We say we’re striving toward the eternal, but our focus gets scattered. We need to realign, to remember what truly matters. Many people wait for a saviour, someone to come and fix everything. But if you’re waiting for someone else to save you, what’s your purpose in this life? Why were you created? We need to look at our own experiences, reflecting on them. Because desire, though it looks like freedom, often becomes a cage. The desire to have more, to be more — it traps us, while deluding us to feel like we’re flying free.
Giving Not Out Of Abundance, But Out Of Compassion
A couple once went to a restaurant. They hadn’t been paid yet, so they told the waitress, “Please recommend the cheapest dish you have. We just want to share a meal together.”
The waitress served them kindly, and they enjoyed their food, surprised by how good it was. When they asked for the bill, she came back and said, “Your bill has been paid — and here’s an additional hundred pounds. Please enjoy the rest of your day.” They were overwhelmed. What they didn’t know was that this waitress herself was struggling. Her washing machine had broken, and she was washing clothes by hand, trying to save up for a new one. When her best friend heard what she’d done, she scolded her: “You’re crazy! You need that money more than they do!” The waitress began to doubt herself — until a few days later, her mother called and said, “Look at Facebook — that couple has posted about your kindness. Everyone’s talking about you.” Soon, people started reaching out — shops, charities, even strangers. One supermarket gifted her a new washing machine. Donations poured in. By the end of it all, she had received around a hundred thousand pounds — all because of one act of generosity. When asked about it, she said something beautiful: “Generosity isn’t about giving when you have extra. It’s about giving even when you yourself are in need.” And that’s the essence of divine love, isn’t it? Giving not out of abundance, but out of compassion.
Real Wealth Is Peace
The quieter we become, the more we can actually hear. Guidance, understanding, intuition — they all come through silence. Meditation helps, yes, but so does just being quieter in daily life. Talking less, reacting less — it creates space for peace. We often believe that more wealth and possessions create more happiness, and therefore this will in turn bring us more peace. But real wealth is peace. And that’s something that’s become so rare these days. We are also constantly chasing happiness, thinking it’s something to be found — but happiness isn’t found, it’s created. It’s built from small daily moments — from gratitude, kindness, and just being fully present.
The story of the fox who lost his tail.
There was once a fox who lost his tail. He came back in pain, and all the other foxes laughed at him.
To hide his shame, he said, “Actually, I feel lighter now. Happier without it.”
Other foxes started cutting off their tails too — just to fit in.
And soon, the tailless foxes became the majority.
That’s what happens when lies spread — they start to look like truth.
And the few who stay honest get mocked for being different.
The foxes were just cutting off their tail to fit in. Many of us are easily deceived, just like the foxes.
So, maybe it’s time to ask ourselves: Are we just following the foxes?
The Fisherman’s Story
“There were a group of fishermen, and one of them never caught anything. When they checked his hook, it was straight. They laughed. “How can you catch fish with that?” The old man smiled and said, “I’m waiting for a special fish.”
Rumours spread all the way to the king, who asked to see the fisherman, but the fisherman refused to come. He said, “I am still waiting to catch a special fish.” The king was surprised, and decided to go to see the fisherman himself. He asked, “What fish are you looking for?” The old man said, “You, Your Majesty. You are my fish.”
The lesson is simple: When your hook is straight — when you live honestly — you may not catch much at first. But in the end, truth always attracts what’s greatest. Only those who fish with a straight hook catch the king.”
The Truth We Ignore
“Have you ever noticed how, when someone tells us something good about ourselves — “You’re doing great,” “You’re kind,” “You’ve got potential” — we just… dismiss it? But when someone says something negative, we believe it instantly. It’s strange, right? The truth is, we react stronger to negativity — even when it’s not the full truth. We respond to negative comments about ourselves because we believe them. And that affects how we see ourselves.
So maybe it’s time to dig into the positive side of who we are — just as deeply as we analyse the negative. Because self-realization isn’t just about facing your flaws. It’s about accepting your worth, too.”
The Pineal Gland: A Hidden Key to Spiritual and Mental Wellbeing
“Today, I want to share a personal discovery about something small yet profoundly important—the pineal gland. This tiny, bean-sized gland lies deep within the brain and is responsible for producing melatonin, the hormone that regulates sleep and influences our mood, rationality, and emotional balance. Uniquely, it has direct contact with our bloodstream, meaning it absorbs substances from the blood faster than most other parts of the brain.
Independent researchers have found that over time, the pineal gland often becomes calcified—hardened by calcium deposits—which limits its ability to function properly. One of the main culprits appears to be fluoride, a chemical commonly found in drinking water, toothpaste, and even swimming pools. Once fluoride enters the bloodstream, it can accumulate in the pineal gland, diminishing its activity. This can lead to reduced mental clarity, emotional dullness, and even heightened fear or anxiety.
Some see this as more than a health concern—it may also affect our spiritual awareness. Throughout history, many mystical traditions have linked the pineal gland to the “third eye”, the centre of higher consciousness. When active, it supports deeper perception, intuition, and spiritual insight. However, when calcified, these capacities are weakened.
There are natural ways believed to help restore its vitality. Avoiding fluoride where possible is a first step, along with consuming cleansing substances like iodine (found in sea moss), apple cider vinegar, and citrus juices, which may help reduce calcium build-up. Meditation, exposure to sunlight, and overall purification—both physical and spiritual—are also said to reactivate the gland over time.
In essence, the pineal gland is more than a biological structure; it’s a bridge between the physical and the spiritual. Protecting and nurturing it can enhance not only our health but also our sense of clarity, joy, and connection. In a world full of distractions and pollutants, such awareness reminds us to care for both body and spirit, refining ourselves in pursuit of deeper understanding.”