Many of us have a fantasy perception of spirituality rather than a real awareness of it. Sometimes this happens because a person wants to escape from the demands of the worldly life, or they may be totally unsatisfied with the life that they have. There are many reasons for our misunderstanding spirituality.
People who turn to spirituality have usually had experiences that will bring them to search for it. There are exceptions, such as people who have been raised in a spiritual environment since childhood or children who are inspired to seek out a spiritual life but essentially, we all have that sense of seeking within us, even before we are born. When you are conceived in the womb you are separated from your origin - the Beloved - and when you try to ‘find yourself’ you’re really seeking that original relationship or Union with the Beloved. The child’s attachment to the mother is part of that seeking and comes from the desire for the existence and attachment that we had before birth.
When you join a spiritual path or even experience Sufi Reiki (essentially the same but to a lower degree), you meet a teacher and the Heart of your soul (not your physical heart) feels the presence of that Absolute energy. This is pure, divine energy, not energy in the material sense. The teacher’s task is to use that energy to vibrate and unveil the Heart of your soul. In this way he or she ‘wakes up’ the soul. Through this experience, the student feels quite an attraction toward the teacher without necessarily understanding why, though the attraction could fade away if the student doesn’t apply their free will to the relationship and seek to go further and understand the Path more deeply.
When you decide with your free will that you want to embark on the Path, or attune to the Sufi Reiki on a lower level, the teacher vibrates your heart chakra. That is why many feel they become more sensitive and more loving. Through this process, and because there is limited contact with the teacher, our reasoning diverts that love toward what we have around us, for example, we become a nicer person to our family, colleagues and neighbours. This is a good start but then you can become bogged down or distracted by that because you may expect them to feel the love just as you do but the key point is that you have changed, not them. You are the one who has opened up, vibrated and started to become alert to the Absolute energy which is pure love.
Because of this, some seekers just get bogged down in worldly relationships. This could work out but then, when the naffs and ego play around, those relationships could suddenly become more demanding and the relationship could eventually deteriorate and be affected by that. This is not productive and it is not how spirituality should be. You have to be continuously aware that because you have changed, you can have no expectation that others should also change. Who are you to impose change on others?
